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Stevethehammer 2:22 Tue Sep 8
Ex wife troubles- am I being unreasonable

It's been well documented on here that I have had troubles in the past what with my wife going off with my best mate with my kids etc etc.
Cutting a long long story short get a message from her this morning to say that she is going away over Xmas to Ireland (where new boyfriend is from) and she has decided to not take the kids. Now we planned ages ago for me to have the kids Xmas eve and part of Xmas day and for her to have them Xmas day and boxing day. Easiest solution all round. Now she has decided she is going from the 23rd to the 27th to see his family etc etc.
I have fucking lost it, what mother would ever decide that. I am more than happy to have my kids over Xmas actually I would be over the fucking moon but for her to not even be there Xmas day in any capacity to me is just wrong. Would be nice to hear a womans take and blokes who have been in this situation or close to it.

Mr Polite 2:24 Tue Sep 8
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Let her take the car and report it to the police that she is driving it without an MOT

roltrader 2:25 Tue Sep 8
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...why are you complaining ?? You've got your kids for the whole of Xmas !!!! Enjoy

VirginiaHam 2:26 Tue Sep 8
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I can't think of anything better than having the children for the whole of Christmas.....start planning for some serious fun.

Steve P 2:28 Tue Sep 8
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Sounds like a proper cunt to me.

You're well shot of it.

Takashi Miike 2:28 Tue Sep 8
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she sounds like a selfish fucker to me steve but if you don't have any plans or have too work over those days id just look after the kids and let her fuck off to ireland

Mr Polite 2:29 Tue Sep 8
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I can see it two ways.

Is it unreasonable for her to want to meet new blokes family without the kids being there first time - No, I think that is understandable. Take out the word Christmas and replace it with 'Bank Holiday' and it seems like a reasonable request. Why are you getting het up over it being a pagan celebration?


On the other hand I have an ex-wife who takes no interest in her son at all and puts her social life in front of his feelings all the time and I find it horrible.

Basically if it's a one off, I don't see the issue, if she does it all the time then she is a bitch.

Either way it doesn't really matter and should affect your actions. You just need to concentrate on being the best dad you can be... that will include not bad mouthing their mother to them by the way

stewie griffin 2:29 Tue Sep 8
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Sounds great having them to yourself all Christmas. Agree to it, but keep the messages where she says she doesn't want to take them. Might/will come in handy in future.

Joey Woodwork 2:31 Tue Sep 8
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It sounds like you feel like it has ruined your Christmas in some way, like you had other plans?

Make the most of being able to spend all Christmas with the Kids.

Darby_ 2:32 Tue Sep 8
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Stop worrying about her and enjoy your time with your kids.

VirginiaHam 2:33 Tue Sep 8
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Joey Woodwork 2:31 Tue Sep 8

I read through Steve's paragraph and I was waiting to read the part where he'd arranged a skiing holiday, leaving Christmas evening, with three models.

10thofMay 2:35 Tue Sep 8
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Mr Polite 2:29 Tue Sep 8
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Sound advice Mr P

Eggbert Nobacon 2:37 Tue Sep 8
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got to be honest steve

I'd be delighted if I were you, Xmas is a time to be with your kids. me and the ex take it in turns (one does Boxing Day, one Xmas day nd then reverse the next year)

I'd be over the moon if she asked me to have my boy when it wasn't "my turn"

Fivetide 2:37 Tue Sep 8
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Sad for the children not to see their Mum I guess, but great for you and you can make it a brilliant Christmas free of friction.

IsaacHock 2:38 Tue Sep 8
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There are two approaches, your emotional maturity will dictate which you choose.

1. A beautiful opportunity has fallen into your lap. Grasp it with both hands and dedicate yourself to building memories all of you will cherish for the rest of your lives.

2. Take every opportunity to remind the kids & anyone else in earshot about what a whore your ex is, and what a hero you are for stepping in to rescue the situation.

Steve P 2:40 Tue Sep 8
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It is a bit sickening that a mother would completely reject any involvement in a special time for her kids, in preference to seeking her own gratification.

Although, if they are teenagers, I think you're making a meal of it.

Stevethehammer 2:40 Tue Sep 8
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I couldn't give a flying fuck about her new boyfriend etc etc they have been over to Ireland about 10 times now with the kids. What bugs me is her choice of when. My kids are 3 and 4 and trying to explain to them that their mum isn't around at Xmas due to her being in Ireland where they know, they know his side of the family etc, how can I explain that she decided not to take them.
I would die for my kids but to me she is being bang out of order on those kids.
Imagine sitting there watching films with the mum, dad, nan etc around and the kids asking where their mum is and why is she in Ireland. Just amazes me as if it was me going away to play happy families with my new girlfriend I would be hang out to fucking dry.

whufcroe 2:40 Tue Sep 8
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is this serious? What dad wouldn't be over the moon to have their kids of 5 days over Christmas?

Aalborg Hammer 2:42 Tue Sep 8
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Steve...make the most of it...waking up on Christmas Day with the kids all around you..some women get really funny about sharing the kids and some fathers never ever get to see the kids at all...win win..difficult though it may be,try to be friends,easler for the kids and you...

roltrader 2:42 Tue Sep 8
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....yeah, yeah, she's a fucking bitch........





can we have a link then ???!!

Your mum 2:42 Tue Sep 8
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I'm gutted about loosing my kids sob sob sob

I'm gutted I have to have the kids over xmas

Fuck off

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